It can happen to any of us, especially since becoming a mom is in fact the most selfless thing you will ever do, but don’t lose sight of what makes you YOU. I see this happen to men too. Suddenly Jiu Jitsu practice equals “he doesn’t love me anymore” even when watching your man do Jiu Jitsu was one of your deciding factors to date him. I like to encourage couples to keep the things that drive them. Keep the things that make you happy, passionate, exciting, and balanced. Keep it. Make the time for it and be aware that you may have to make extra time for your partner, but don’t lose the stuff you love.
I have noticed a pattern of this happening to some of the noblest people I know. People that I am positive should have saint status in heaven. They have the kindest hearts and are always giving (missionaries, teachers, massage therapists, yoga teachers, nurses, doctors… etc.) yet their sweet little hearts are so used to the constant giving that their ability to receive love is lost. Many people with this background end up in one-sided relationships or alone. It is not their fault. They have just conditioned themselves and the ones around them to let them take care of everyone. When you see these people, make them sit down, make them relax, drag them to a yoga class. These people are the worst (in the best way)! You have to tell them several times to take care of themselves. Usually the universe will do it for them by bringing on an injury or an untimely cold. That is the only way to get them to see that they need to be taken care of.
It is very easy to recognize others who have issues with being their best care takers but it is very hard to see it for ourselves. Today, sit. Sit for 1-5 minutes and ask yourself if you are being taken care of. Ask yourself if you are living your dream or if you are doing things that you feel passionate about. If the answer(s) is no, fix it, as only you can. No one is to blame and no one can do it for you. Once you have discovered the truth, talk to your support team, spouse, friends, whoever and let them know your decision to take care of you. Come to them with an open heart and don’t be surprised if they seem offended, after all you are retraining yourself and them. It won’t happen overnight but practice you time daily and notice the abundance and blessing that you will be able to give and receive.